I have friends who have come to me for years for advice in their relationships. I often tell them hey how can I fix what's wrong for you if I can't do it for myself. Over the years of laughs and tears we have all experienced what we thought was love. Many of my friends (myself included) have been in relationships with people who seemed great at the start but then the truth came out. I have a firm belief that when you meet someone you meet the person they want the world to believe and that's who you fall for. Then six months later you meet the true person, the woman/man who doesn't like to clean the house, the man/woman who doesn't want to work, the person who feels the world owes them something, the ones who don't pay bills (would rather club than eat dinner every night), the ones who believe as long as there are single people out there they should not settle for one person. In life we must stop and ask ourselves what we really want, who we are now and who we want to be. If you are not like the person mentioned above, or the person you are with is any of the above mentioned (or if you are that person and your mate is not) realize that your relationship won't work. We all need support and love, we need to learn to "look out for our star players". Many think that every relationship must be in turmoil to be worth being in and we should hold the other person down. In some cases this is true, but it is only true when the other person feels the same about you. The Question: Why can't you leave him/her alone? The answer (for many): I am used to him or her, I feel afraid to venture out on my own, this person is a safety net, I can't hurt him/her. Realize this you can get use to a new more positive and productive life, you lived on your own before you met them, nothing is life is safe (even getting out of bed each morning can be dangerous) and if not hurting them is hurting you, then they don't love you if they won't tell you to go. So what's your answer? Are you in this situation? Have you been in it? Why did you stay? What made you leave?
Posted By: Tanya Villa
Thursday, July 9th 2009 at 11:39AM
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