Wow, these are two questions I would love answered from the male and female perspective. Many people leave relationships over money, infidelity (cheating), growing apart, or a constant struggle never won. Everyone experiences low points in their relationships. That's normal and most couples work through these times. While the experts say there are no formulas for deciding when to break up, there are signs to watch for. If you experience more than a few consistently over a long period, it's probably time to move on: You no longer get what you need from the relationship (love, respect, trust, honesty etc.). Poor COMMUNICATION (when you seem to discuss the problems always but nothing changes),. You don't look forward to seeing the other person at the end of the day or at all. You can't see the good things about the person only the bad (when you were in love none of those annoying habits mattered all you knew was how you felt when they were near). You don't laugh or smile anymore (this used to be all you did when they were mentioned or were around). You look to other people to fill the void (when the relationship started other people could barely get you on the phone). Friends feel nervous about being around you two in the same place (before everyone wanted to be around because they thought you two were perfect, or in love or so sweet). Most people think that cheating breaks up a relationship first, i'm here to say that money can drive you apart quicker. If the bills are always behind, you can't go anywhere or do anything and you feel its the other person's fault for not paying enough or helping enough. Many people stick with or go back to mates who have cheated, but ask yourselves why did they cheat, what did i not give that they needed. The I want to be in charge syndrome, relationships work far better when you work together. This is the same in any aspect of life even in a sport. When two people have been together long enough sometimes what I want becomes different from what you want. Take the lyrics to Tamia's "Stranger in my house", the entire song is about a relationship that a woman feels the man doesn't know who she is or what she wants. The best line "or could it be that the stranger is me, have i changed so drastically, is it I want more for me and you remain the same." This speaks directly to looking in to yourself and being honest. So the question remains.....Why did you stay, what made you leave?
Posted By: Tanya Villa
Thursday, July 9th 2009 at 12:10PM
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