Why is it that ones past plays a huge part on their future? Say for instance you’re involved in a relationship with someone who doesn't know how to love. Say they came from a dysfunctional family or past that prevents them from truly loving you, the way you deserve. Or really loving themselves, a lot of times I found out that this type of situation really can be one that challenges the very fabric of the relationship. It can be extremely hard trying to love for two. Especially when your mate is resisting your ways of showing them how to love. I was in a relationship where I tried my hardest to show my ex-girlfriend love, but she was just to set in her ways and was undeserving of that love. She ended up resenting me for it and felt I was trying to control her life. This was really hard for me to stomach because I had been turned into the villain of the relationship. Maybe my tactics of trying to show her love and help her to see the love I deserved might have been a bit harsh. I guess I'll never know... But in this situation all that ended up happening is instead of teaching her love she ended up teach me hurt and pain. This went on for a number of years before ultimately we parted ways on bad terms. With her understanding of love no better and my experience marked with failure. Sometimes when you get involved with someone who has a history of pain you take on several years of hardship and really most of the time you don't even stand a chance. The person has to be willing to forgive what happened to them in the past and then forgive themselves for harboring this pain for all this time. Preventing themselves for truly experiencing true love... Then and only then can the process of their healing really begin...
So what do you do if your mate has a past full of pain that has made them unable to love you, what do you do?
Is it easy loving for two?
Posted By: T.D. Faison
Thursday, July 9th 2009 at 1:13PM
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