I thank you for your comment on Why did you stay, what made you leave. We are all in search of the man or the woman of our dreams. I want you to always know that you are so blessed because you did. You are my inspiration for this next series of blogs. I hope you don't mind but I to have been through it and think we as people can help each other. Sometimes all it takes is one word to give another courage and strength to make a change for the better.
Ladies and gentlemen we all know this word and most of us have experienced it or know someone who has. I have been through it before as well as many of my friends and loved ones. THIS one word reflects back to my previous blog entitled "Why did you stay, what made you leave." Often times people don't know when they are being abused. This so sad but true. Abuse is not always in the form of a fist or a foot or some object making painful connection with your body. It can be mental, emotional, s*xual, economical, and isolation. There are many forms of abuse within our society, and often this abuse tends to occur in a home-based situation, and then it becomes domestic abuse and domestic violence. It has in fact, one of the leading causes of death among women around the world. Abuse and domestic violence are found in all types of relationships, it knows no economic boundaries, and no age boundaries. I have read that there is some form of domestic abuse or domestic violence occurring in one out of two marriages or partnerships. When this is not your situation it is easy to look at it and say I would not stay if it were me. But the reality is, it takes so much conviction and courage to leave this type of a relationship and not go back. The fear of the other person can be so debilitating that women stay until their lives end. We can all see when someone is physically abused however, mental or emotional abuse is a lot harder to spot. You could be at someone's home and watch the abused person wait on the abuser hand and foot thinking wow I wish my man or woman would do this for me. All the while this could be a situation where the abuser is simply demeaning the other person to feel the power they get to have that kind of control. In the same type of abuse people are constantly insulted, you never do any thing right, you're too fat, too skinny hell the sun may be to bright in the house and it's your fault for being to dumb to close the blinds. That type of abuse can be just as bad as being hit, to teach a child is to repetitively present the same information until they believe it. What does that mean, if you hear something long enough and on and constant basis you begin to thinks its TRUE!!! Alarming right. Well that's just the icing on the cake. In my next blog I will discuss the economical and isolation forms of abuse as well as how to get help if you need it.
Posted By: Tanya Villa
Thursday, July 9th 2009 at 1:22PM
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