Men often get a bad rap from women based on past relationships. We has people have a tendency to make the new guy pay for what the old guy did. Now don't get me wrong ladies I will always stay by my sister's side, but the truth is the truth. Add to that men do the same thing to us. Most people found there first loves around what 11-12. We had no baggage and nothing to hold against that new and exciting person. However believe it or not women carry that baggage all the way from then til now (whatever age now is). Now from all the way back then coming up to now men are getting the pre-judgement and distrust. Now men on the other hand while they do pre-judge and distrust it came from a relationship in much later years. Men enjoy the company of many women very early (not all men but most men). Now the baggage they carry came from the first women they feel in love with (at whatever age). Men have been raised to be tough and strong and to not show emotion. Women often wonder why it is so hard for a man to say I Love You. Well think about it they were taught this from birth by who (WOMEN). So think further once a man lets the guard down and shares his feelings then he is later crushed by the first woman he opened up too. Man that is some serious pain. Women go into relationships with thoughts of "Oh My Gosh if we have a baby it will look like this, if we get married i would wear this". Most men just want to make it out alive if it ends and if not that "MARRIAGE" word comes when they are truly sure you can be trusted. So again here is the woman ready to walk down aisles and tie knots and buy houses, while the man is thinking I just wanna chill and see where it goes. Now we can't blame women for there thinking either because just like men that is what they were taught too. "Find the right man, settle down, buy a house and have some kids". Now why is do I feel women can endure more pain than men? Women deal with there pain in some kind of insane way, called crying, screaming, throwing things and maybe even some stalking. LOL!!!! Men on the other hand hold in that hurt from when that ONE WOMAN hurt him. Now even through all that shouting, screaming and keying cars that women do we then hold on to the hurt so as to not let the next guy do it too. People need to realize all men are not dogs and some of those dogs grow up to be men. And the reverse all women are not Witches with a capital B. No one is perfect, don't forget what made you cry but also remember that this new person makes you smile. Be careful with your heart. Don't just give it freely to anyone. Holding on to hurt, only hurts you too. So the question Why do men get a bad rap? The answer.....you guys tell me. I believe it is a simple case of being a bag lady. Take it from Eryka Badu's song "Bag Lady" .......
Posted By: Tanya Villa
Thursday, July 9th 2009 at 5:30PM
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